Reading Learning to float: Memoir of a Caregiver Husband gives a very good look into the differences men have compared to women when put into the situation of having to nurture and care for a loved one. Allan Ament became the caregiver of his wife Deloris after she had a stroke. Emotionally at times this book is a little hard to take. Allan's anger towards Deloris's inabilities after her stroke is difficult to read, since Allan is a retired criminal defense attorney he deserves some slack. The book does have humorous parts in it. You will get a good laugh now and then. Their life completely changed as husband and wife. The life they where so comfortable in changed. It took Allan a little while to get comfortable in his new role in the marriage. He did a good job learning what Deloris needed and what his role was. No two strokes are alike so the future is unknown in how much Deloris will progress. "700,000 Americans each year suffer a stroke. It is the third most common cause of death in the U.S.A. after heart attacks and cancer." That information is a little disturbing.
This is a very good book to read. It is well written. I think that it would be helpful to people in many difficult and stressful situations. Not just in the case of a stroke. It gave helpful details in how to handle hard and stressful situations. One important thing I learned unless you take care for yourself, you will not be of much help to someone else.
From the ancient Chinese spiritual masters "Learning to float, we survive"
"Thank You Allan Ament for giving me the opportunity to review your book"